I am 31 years old, have been married for 6 years, and currently my job is quite stable. I am satisfied with my married life, especially with my two children who are healthy, smart and obedient to their parents. Life is quite comfortable because of good income and accumulated money.
Before coming together with sincere love, the love was beautiful and very romantic. I trust and feel secure in the husband I have chosen, even though he is a few years older than me, but we are both very in sync, there is no difference in our thoughts and actions. I am always proud of the husband I have chosen, without any hesitation about anything.
The unfortunate thing about my marriage is that after getting married, I went to live at my husband’s house. Since then, I have devoted all my attention to my husband’s family. Knowing that my mother-in-law is difficult and doesn’t like me from the beginning, I have to be even more careful to avoid making mistakes that will make my mother-in-law angry. Every task in the house, whether small or big, has my participation. There is almost nothing that goes unnoticed. Yet the person who always complains about me the most is still my mother-in-law.
Before, I thought that marriage was enough for both husband and wife to live happily together, even if they were a little poor, it was okay. But when you get married, you see that it’s far different from the best things when you’re in love. At that time, I was dreaming, eating anything delicious when we met, going out anywhere was fun… But after getting married, life was completely different, busy with company work to make money, taking care of work at home, and having to be pampered. mother-in-law.
The mother-in-law always oppresses her and even thinks of ways to extract money from her daughter-in-law. Illustration
Not only does she oppress her daughter-in-law, her mother-in-law also hates my parents’ family. My mother-in-law tries to stop me every time I return to my maternal hometown, even implying that my daughter-in-law is stealing money husband parent to bring back to my parents’ house… Those are just the treatments that there are countless situations every day that I just want to forget and stay at my husband’s house for the sake of my husband and children. As for material things, my mother-in-law is meticulous and calculates every penny daughter-in-law.
Every month I pay living expenses to my mother-in-law, the amount is not small, it is comfortable for my mother-in-law to spend, and there is even some left over for her. But the mother-in-law still constantly complains about the price increase of everything, always pressuring her daughter-in-law to give her more money. There are even times when mothers-in-law find excuses by being absent when the person bringing the bill arrives.
At the beginning of last year, I used up all my money to lend to my mother-in-law. I had saved this money for several years. My mother-in-law was very happy when she took my 100 million. This money was borrowed by my mother-in-law to send back to her hometown for her younger brother to borrow to build a house. But when I needed something at the end of the year, I asked my mother-in-law and she only gave me 10 million VND.
My mother-in-law explained: “I have calculated it all, the remaining 90 million is for taking care of the grandchildren, buying gifts for the children, and money for the couple to stay at their parents-in-law’s house. If we rent a house, there may be a shortage, where can we get it?” This 10 million. Take it temporarily and spend it, your mother and children are at home, it’s a loss wherever they go.”
I was very shocked at my mother-in-law’s excuses. The money is very important to me, related to my upcoming business. My mother-in-law’s calculations like that made me very miserable, I didn’t know how to handle it. I don’t dare say anything to my husband yet, I don’t want him to feel awkward and this could cause a rift in the family.
My mother-in-law is so unreasonable, should I aggressively demand it? If I feel suffocated and it’s too much to bear, should I talk to my husband about moving out and living separately?