My mother declared “no house” if I didn’t bring my lover home this Tet, but my lover insisted on not following me home to meet my parents, leaving me wondering what to do.
I was originally a boy from a small town, went to the city to study at university, then stayed to start a career. After nearly 20 years of living in a foreign land, I have experienced every profession and have a stable job with a salary of about 25 million/month. My appearance is also good-looking, not tall, not short, but for some reason my love life is very difficult.
My first lover was a classmate in college. The two of us also had a few years of passionate love, but then we went our separate ways because the girl’s family criticized me for being a small-town boy, living far away, and not worthy of her family background. My second and third lovers both worked at the same company, but they didn’t go anywhere.
Currently, I’m dating a girl 10 years younger than me, this year’s 26; are from the same province, but different communes. We have only known each other for 5 months. I personally want to get married, so I also want to get married, but my lover wants to slowly learn about it. I offered to take her home several times, because her house and mine were only 8km apart, but she refused, saying that she hadn’t decided on marriage yet, so she didn’t want to meet my parents. I complied with her wishes, because I was afraid that she would want to break up, but inside I also felt extremely impatient.
Not knowing who to listen to, my mother found out that I had a lover and was still in the same province. My mother called me, asking me to bring my girlfriend home this Tet, otherwise she would “ban” me and not let me go home. My mother said, I’m old enough this year, if I don’t get married, when will my parents have a grandchild? Hearing my mother say that, I didn’t know whether to laugh or cry, not knowing what to do to satisfy her request. I also wanted to bring my lover home, but she refused. In your opinion, what should I do to convince her?