My brother-in-law is a patriarch and an abusive man. He was so jealous that my sister wasn’t allowed to wear dresses to work, wasn’t allowed to talk to the opposite sex, wasn’t allowed to go to weddings, even with cousins… They had a son together, now She is in 1st grade. Many times my sister was abused both mentally and physically. She was slapped and beaten by her brother. Sometimes her face was so swollen that she did not dare to go to work. She had to use the excuse of being sick to ask for leave. I was very frustrated and advised her many times to divorce. She also wanted to be free from that person, but my parents did not allow it.
My father said: “It’s okay for a woman to leave her husband. This family doesn’t have that tradition, the family’s dignity doesn’t allow it. So if you have to suffer, try to endure it. If you’re jealous, just follow your wishes.” . What my father said made both my sister and I depressed. My sister still has to live in hell, and I don’t dare to get married, but I can’t, my father recently urged me. My father gave me a deadline to get married before I was 27 years old, because I didn’t want to be known as having an unmarried daughter!!!
If her biological parents treated her like that, she wouldn’t dare leave her husband. (Illustration)
Even my father is still so patriarchal, old-fashioned, and conservative, how can he talk back to his son-in-law and protect his daughter?
I thought that if my father was like that, at least my mother would be able to offer a few words of encouragement and comfort, but I never expected that my mother would have the same thoughts as my father. She was afraid of scandal. In my neighborhood, no one had ever left her husband in peace. There was always gossip, being judged by others, and when she went to a wedding, no one wanted to sit with her. So she told my sister that if she got divorced, she shouldn’t return home, it was best to live somewhere else, and keep quiet as if she still had her husband.
How can I live if my sister takes her children to another place? Now she works as an office worker, has no savings (because her brother-in-law confiscated all her salary), and only wants to rely on her maternal family, but if her biological parents treat her like that, she wouldn’t dare leave her husband. Should I just try to live like that for the rest of my life? I love her so much but don’t know how to convince my parents to take care of her and not let her live miserably and waste her life like that.